So I drank enough last night to loosen my tongue but not too much that I couldn't remember what I talked about. On our way back home I asked Ragazzo what he wanted, because he says he didn't like that woman from the other night at Lowe's who just got into the truck and left the older man to do the heavy lifting. But then again all the women he's dated and been interested in we're the skinny girls who are normally very girly-girl. He explained that he liked the women in the middle- that all his exes use to be in the middle. They would be girly but also wouldn't mind heavy lift and dirty work. But after a time they would change and just want to be girly-girls and not do any work. Even his exwife changed and her father would get after her for it as well. I countered with- well everything and everyone changes, as much as women say they don't want to be apart of the old type gender roles, when they are in long termed committed relationships they normally fall into those roles and become the gender types. He said he knew but he didn't like it. Then went on to say that he doesn't see me doing that. Of course I wouldn't, I grew up with guys, I am one of the guys, I'm a tomboy through and through and I prefer it that way... Mind you I'm saying all of this in a dress and high heels. He pointed out that while I am a tomboy ,don't mind bucking bricks, heavy lifting, getting dirty, I also don't mind dressing up and getting pretty if someone asks. Well that's true enough, but hardly anybody asks it of me. And he also just loves that I ride a motorcycle, that most women are intimated by the power and danger of motorcycles and I not only ride but I tend to ride faster and harder than him. Yeah, my crash kinda proves that, but ah well.

So the retaining wall will be built out of cinder blocks that are 8 x 12 x 16, stacked 4 high to maintain the 32" height so when you sit on it your feet can dangle. Then 28' from the southern wall then 9' west for a total of 113 blocks. Rebar to stabilize, concrete to support, mortar to hold for a grand total of $470. Ouchie. And that doesn't include the toppers or the side veneers.

Gr... Talking to him stone cold sober is sometimes so fucking hard I can't even make a sexual innuendo to it!! Gr.

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Tonight is APA, I told Gina that I'd wear a dress today. But that is not until tonight.

I need to cut the branches with the reciprocating blade but I'm tired and I am feeling lazy. I know I have to do a lot of this work on the backyard, seeing as it is my idea. I'm still shocked that Ragazzo is doing a lot of this work, I thought he would have supported the ideas but left all the work to me. I'm so happy that he is helping with most of this heavy lifting.

So last night we were at Lowe's and while we were waiting for the blocks to be brought out to the truck two people, a older couple, came out with some heavy lifting items. The woman went directly to the truck cab and got in leaving the guy to load the items himself. Ragazzo made a comment saying she was lazy and I pointed out that most women are that way. He said he knew, but still didn't like it. I'm not a girly-girl, never have been. Sometimes I do like to dress up, but even then I'm a tomboy through and through. I don't mind "bucking brick" as Ragazzo says- that's moving the bricks from the truck to the backyard. I don't care about doing heavy work, sweating or whatever. Guess it is just the way I was raised. I wonder if that is why he loves me... Hmm.

Well, my little iPad is dying, I am done writing for today.

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 These are the branches that were removed from the tree in the front yard. They need to be chopped to size, these will be the top for the shade structure that I want to build. All the little branches and the twigs will provide great grabs for the wisteria and Virginia creeper that I want to get growing to provide shade. I might do it to the front yard too, since Virginia Creeper doesn't destroy masonry it provides great shade and keeps the building structure cooler by reflecting the sun away. Nice.... Just got to prune it away from the roof. Easy enough to do.

 Here is all the cinder blocks that I bought last night, again I thought it would have been more for everything. But since all those branches are by the side gate we had to carry all these blocks through the garage and into the back yard. My hands are still all scratched up ^__^ ouchie.

 So here is the patio concrete edge that Ragazzo built out for me. From here I need to build up the soil, extend that flower bed to the left out by 5 feet.

 Here is the project plans for the retaining wall and the location of the shade structure. That retaining wall will be 14 feet from the patio edge. It will connect to the southern wall and head north for 28 feet, turn 90 degrees to the west (toward the house) and continue on for another 9 feet. It will be made out of cinder blocks for about $130, then Ragazzo suggested a stone face veneer. I made fun of the veneer saying they were ugly- he doesn't take joking so well. But I finally convinced him that I was serious and I liked his idea, I'll do that as long as he chose the color. Silly Ragazzo.

So here is what Ragazzo did for me, he pulled in dirt from the yard and leveled out the 5 feet, pulled the bricks down and relined them to how I wanted them to extend, then after I bought the bricks he set them out and pulled the dirt down to make it a little more level. Now all I have to do is fill in the flower bed with potting soil and plant my vines and flowers.

I love Ragazzo, he's done so much, when I thought he wouldn't. Guess I am just not use to people being like this... now to get over my insecurities and keep moving forward. <3
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